::: ShoSho’s Corner :::

I thought I’d write this so that people understand what I meant by my last post. Beware, it is quite long!

As you all know, I live abroad. In the early years, I had to stay in Kuwait to complete my studies as I was in the first year of college.  My husband’s family took care of my son while I was attending my lectures and stuff. 

When I officially graduated, I couldn’t believe it. It was like a dream! It was like this day is never coming, you know. That sense of achievement & happiness I felt that day was a feeling I never forgot. I could  finally live like a proper family, you know.

Then came my little son, bless him (that’s his feet in the hospital BTW). I had him in 2005. He was our little miracle. We never thought we would have a second child and he was a surprise. Home management became more difficult but I enjoyed every bit of it it. I didn’t like to complain.

Before I had him, I used to take coures and stuff when my big son was in school. But this time, I stopped and dedicated my time for him.  When he got his diabetes at one years old, the world crumbled and those three weeks at the hospital were an unforgettable experience. He started going to the nursery recently. It makes him interact with kids and have lots of fun. They have been very helpful and learned everything regarding his condition. 

Look, I don’t want anyone to feel sorry for me, I am perfectly fine as I am. I am happy. There are some advantages in raising your kid on your own, away from everybody. But, what I am trying to say is you do need help sometimes. All the mums who have family around them are lucky. The have mums, sisters, in-laws to help them for at least a couple of hours while say, you sleep, study, shop..  etc anything! 

Although I have to mention that my husband does help when he can, like if I want to cook for an invitation or if I have to go to a doctor. I really appreciate that. He’s a great dad and loves being with his kids.

It’s annoying when some people think I am fathya, and that I don’t have anything to do. They laugh when I say I can’t go here or there, Like ” Shino 3ndich? You don’t have anything to do” . Just because I am not working doesn’t mean I have a lot of free time!

BTW, there’s a big difference between having one kid and more. Having two or more is demanding, each child has his own needs.  

I don’t mean leaving your kids to the maids.

I don’t mean going out everyday with friends and not spending time with your kids.

I mean, just a couple of hours, if not minutes on your own, perhaps just reading a book! 

Having said that, I believe you should try to spend as much time as possible with the kids when they are small. Time flies quickly and you might regret that later!