Think Twice
June 18, 2008 at 4:04 pm | In Life, Love, Relations & Stuff, Me Myself & I, Thoughts |
I have been brought up to keep my mouth shut whenever someone argues with me. “Whatever they say, they don’t mean it so don’t argue”, mum would say or “It’s because they care they say that”. So, the “Listen from this ear and let it out from the other” motto was planted in my head.
Anyways, I grew up like this. I found myself feeling better when I wrote. I had about 40 diaries from middle school until a year into my marriage. I poured my heart in them. I got rid of them eventually, as the thought of dying one day and someone reading them scared me!
Anyways, a question I want an answer to is why do people think it’s ok to hurt people who are calm, don’t fight back and aren’t hot-tempered BUT make sure they don’t say something (yisawwoon lohom alf 7isab) to people who are stubborn, inconsiderate and hot-tempered? Especially when they are wrong?
You might think I should say something. I know my mum was wrong.
But now, I really think life is not worth it.
Yes, I do get hurt and suffer. Still, I think before I say something because I don’t like to leave scars on other people’s hearts.
People die every minute. Leaving everything behind, family, money, luxury… etc.
Don’t people realize they can leave this world any second?
Don’t they know that once they leave it, there’s no coming back or fixing what they left behind?
I hope everyone thinks before he/she opens his/her mouth because the verbal scar doesn’t go away like the physical one.
Please don’t waste time and years on silly matters! It doesn’t really matter who is wrong and who is right.
Spread love and peace, be forgiving and live happily! How easy is that? Yet people complicate things!
Love,
P.S: So when are we going to that island NewBride? ;)
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SHOSHO This is life and the ugly reality!!! Only Weak people hurt the innocent ones!! Why? because they feel strong! I know life would be much better if peace spreed all over the universe! but people as you said always complicate things!! So Just skip them and look for the bright side of your life. Still there are good people out there. So stick with the good people and ignore the others
Comment by technogal — June 18, 2008 #
It’s a dog eat dog world out there. People care about themselves first and others second. Remember that there are good people walking among us as there are bad ones. Focus on them rather than focusing on the negative ones, that’ll just drain your energy in fighting. As technogal said, weak and insecure people are the ones who hurt the innocent just to give them a sense of being superior!
Comment by Ruby Woo — June 19, 2008 #
eee wallah ..fe nass sayreen sejj mayfakroon gabel ma ytikalimoon and then am sure they regret what they said, bs it is too late!
think think and think again before u say anything!
thanks 3al post, opened my mind
Comment by Squirreliya — June 19, 2008 #
As you’ve seen I have quite a temper on me and get angry easily but even during my arguments and fighting I don’t hurt with words. I do only when the person on the other end starts hurting me. After all an eye for an eye.
bs wala 3afya 3alech ily you have the ability to stay quite during arguments btw it annoys the other person even more.
Comment by FourMe — June 19, 2008 #
Life is too short and what a shame to waste it on anger and hate….I say live each day to the fullest and definately learn to forgive and forget. Carrying burdens of bad times and holding grudges arent what life is about. It might be an ugly world out there, but think of the things and ppl that make it beautiful to u.
Comment by NoNoWa — June 19, 2008 #
at many occasions I find myself “rise above” and say nothing… but at some other occasions I say something right there on the spot!
I think you can be the judge of it…
people who are harmless are seen as push-overs by stupid bullies… I see this here at work, when you speak up they back up… when you do donkey work and say nothing you are bullied on!
I now try to see when it worth it and when its not… and when its not, I leave it to Karma
Karma took care of me so many many many times heehee
Comment by Ansam — June 19, 2008 #
yyy 100% right..nice ppl become dormats while loud obnoxious ppl get their way, thats life bas ur right in not yelling back and hurting others BUT don’t keep quiet when it comes to ur rights, talk ur way through things don’t let ppl use u cause ur too nice
Comment by fashionated — June 19, 2008 #
You are right… but sometimes, when necessary, you should speak out and be heard. You might bring light to someone or change their mind.
Just never let what ignorant people say get to you. You are wiser. Smarter.
Comment by iRise — June 19, 2008 #
ok thats a misconception that nice is doormat totalllyyy wrong a9lan nice people have the upper hand but sadly not all know it.
Comment by skinnybumblebee — June 19, 2008 #
Some People find joy in hurting other people!! While others just can’t see someone being happy,they want everyone to be where they are.
From my experience, I see that we must always stick up for ourselves when people feel like putting us down and we must be compassionate to these poor souls and not let their words have power over us!
Comment by PaLoMiNo — June 19, 2008 #
Life is full of ups and downs .. and people lose control and hurt others, it is upto the individual to let the wounds heal or keep then open , as for me i try to give them back untill they know it hurts them just as much it hurt me,
Comment by grey — June 19, 2008 #
5eyana ! wain btro07on intay o newbride ? e3tarfaw?
I feel you , they hurt you but u zip it sometimes u talk back cuz u can’t hold and that would make you the worst human on earth while they do it most of the time ! Nas ma3endaha e7sas
Comment by Zabo0o6a — June 20, 2008 #
Technogal: yeah I know.. Life is tough isn’t it?
Ruby Woo: it’s really hard to find good people.. there were times I thought I did but was stabbed so.. it’s hard to make friends again..
Squirelliya: I know but I don’t know why they keep doing that.. I mean, they regret it but they should learn… anyways.. Allah yahdi el jamee3..
FourMe: yeah I know it annoys more.. lol.. Thing is I want to defend myself sometimes but because I am not used to it.. I am afraid of fighting it’s like the end of the world to me
NoNoWa: Very true.. sometimes I just want to brainwash my brain then I will be ok lol!
Ansam: Yeah rise above is what I almost always do..
Fashionated: I know.. too nice is translated as weak and stupid which I am not.. I just feel that some arguments are really childish!
iRise: Yeah that is what I am trying to do..
SkinnyBumblebee: SO true..
Palomino: Welcome and I know! I don’t GET what joy they get! I mean, When I see people behaving in some manner, I don’t understand how they can be like this?! Cruel or dishonest or liers or destroyers.. What’s in their brain I don’t know!
Grey: Good for you.. I can’t think at the same time of the argument but later I think I should have done this or said that.. too late of course..
ZaboO6a: LooooL we are going to the LOST island.. and you are most welcome to join us.. pack your bikini and leave your hijab (if you wear it) at home
loooooooool
Comment by ::: ShoSho ::: — June 20, 2008 #
Your mom wanted to protect you in her way. However I think the better way is to speak out for yourself coz no one else will.
Comment by Big Pearls — June 21, 2008 #
You asked why these people do this, it is because they know the calm person will not strike back at them, they want to feel powerful and they do these things. These people need to be taught a lesson, I don’t mean that in a mean way, but in a good way that when they start to behave that way, the person should treat them the exact same way..
Comment by N. — June 23, 2008 #
Big Pearls: i know.. thing is, most moms in our family don’t help us develop a strong personality.. they just want us to be mo2adabbat.. which is not always good..
N.: Yeah.. it’s sort of sick.. I will try to do that one day but I know i will feel feel horrible..
Comment by ::: ShoSho ::: — June 23, 2008 #